Why do I do what I do?
My real journey began when I was 23 years old. I was a very confused and angry young man who had an unhealthy relationship with money, women, and himself. It was as if I were paddling upstream and repeating the same self-defeating patterns. I had been arrested for a DUI (driving under the influence). Women were interested in me at first but were quickly turned off by my insecurities and lack of direction. All this stress gave me health challenges such IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). I was stuck – and my body was just reflecting how my life was.
However, one day a miracle happened. I met a woman named Marci while I was on dancing tour in Arizona. I was annoyed that her and I were not going to spend time alone but she didn’t give into my anger. Instead she shifted my perceptions and like a love ninja. I was blown away by her centeredness and kindness. She shared her insights about the healing arts and metaphysics. Before I left back to California, she bought me the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay.
I read the entire book in two days. Everything made complete sense to me. It was as if I were downloading ancient wisdom that I had always known. I needed to learn more. I was determined to heal my body and to expand my mind. I sought out psychologists, healers, bodyworkers, and attended any workshops that caught my attention.
Through my own challenges and perseverance, I became a practitioner in the healing arts. After decades of formal and life education, I created a hybrid of techniques that cut through the muck and get you unstuck.
I still have a thirst for knowledge and expanded awareness. My path is my work and to help others. I appreciate your interest in possibly meeting me. Sharing your experience and journey is a great opportunity for us to learn more–together.
Now here is my official bio:
Ray Doktor, Psy. D. has received a bachelor’s degree in human behavior, a master’s degree in counseling psychology and a doctorate in clinical psychology.
His past advanced training included hypnotherapy, gestalt therapy, guided imagery, EMDR, NLP, Psych –K, meditation, qi gong, sound healing, and somatic experience. He has seen over 5000 clients over the past 17 years with a 90% success rate.
Dr. Ray’s mentorship included traveling around the world to assist Dr. Morris Netherton (Pioneer and colleague of Fritz Perls, Carl Rogers, Norm Shealy). He was also a student of Mantak Chia and Master Hong Liu. He was supervised at Hollywood Sunset Fee Clinic, Positive Directions, and Glendale Memorial Hospital.
Dr. Ray specializes in relationship coaching, couples coaching, intimacy and sexuality issues, dating advice, and life coaching and career paths. His hybrid relationship coaching style combines Western and Eastern techniques. In a session, he might combine mind techniques, Tibetan bowls, light healing, and breathwork. He often gives you audio recordings and exercises to take home. Many clients have had breakthroughs in a single session.
What makes Dr. Ray standout from most coaches is that he has the clinical training and experience working with trauma or other difficult challenges that could prevent some clients in achieving their desired results. In other words, if there is a block, he will help you remove it. He has a high success rate in achieving these positive results with clients.
Dr. Ray has conducted workshops and lectures in the United States, Netherlands, Brazil, and England, including speaking engagements at UCLA and UC Berkley. He has shared the same stages with Marianne Williamson, Bruce Lipton, and Eckhart Tolle. He has appeared on the E Channel, HBO, and KCAL 9 Los Angeles and has been quoted in and written articles for Psychology Today, Los Angeles Times, Men’s Health, and Santa Monica Daily Press. You might have also heard him on Playboy Radio, LA Talk Radio, or Talk America Radio.
Dr. Ray resides in Santa Monica, California and loves hiking, bike riding, surfing, and is also a lead singer of a rock band. He has been musician and performing in front of audiences since he was a teenager. He lives his life authentically, spiritually, actively, and funky trying to infuse his multi-faceted personality and interests to be an integrated, happy spiritual being. Life is his education and love is his teacher.
And yes, his real last name is Doktor. Everyone laughs about so he is used to it:)